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What does it mean when a man says he feels comfortable with you? Read this article of BestLifeTips to find out and see how to make a man feel comfortable around you.
How do you tell when a man says he feels comfortable with you?
When a man says he feels comfortable with you, he will do these things when he is with you:
He’ll talk about anything
When a man says he feels comfortable with you, he’ll openly talk about anything, like there is no distance between you two. You can talk about anything anytime without feeling bored or being disturbed.
He tells you about his secrets
He’ll share his secrets with you, even if it’s an embarrassing one. Though he may be not happy about it, he doesn’t mind if you know, as he trusts that you’re close enough that you won’t turn around and leave.
He lends you his phone
When you forget your phone or computer, and he lends you his, you know he feels comfortable with you. That simple act of lending you a phone or a laptop means he trusts you.
He talks on phone freely around you
He freely talks on the phone to their parents and close friends around you. This means that he feels comfortable with you and it’s fine about letting you in on the little details of his life. He’s not afraid you’ll discover too much or overhear something you shouldn’t.
He lets down his guard
We tend to be protective until we feel fully safe with another. So, when he is able to let his guard down and really open up, it is a clear sign that he feels comfortable with you.
He knows you won’t judge him
He doesn’t care about his looks or have to fake his smile or try to act properly. He is himself around you without being afraid of judging by you.
He’s happy to talk about you with his friend
If he feels comfortable with you, he will have no issue telling his friends all your good qualities.
He isn’t afraid of disagreement
When you make a statement about anything, such as a film, food, viewpoint, and he disagrees with you, it’s a sign he isn’t trying to conceal his true self and he can be at ease with his own opinions.
What does it mean when a man says he feels comfortable with you?
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What does it mean when a man says he feels comfortable with you? Below are likely causes:
He is attracted to you
When a man says he feels comfortable with you, it may because he is actually attracted to you.
This would be more likely if he only says this kind of things to you and not to his other friends. If he is attracted to you, he may show signs of attraction in his body language when he is around you, which he doesn’t do with his other friends.
He considers you a friend
When a man says he feels comfortable with you, it could also be the case that he said that he feels comfortable with you because he considers you as a friend. This would be more likely if he seems to interact with his other friends in the same way that he does with you.
He is shy around other people
When a man says he feels comfortable with you, this may be because he does get shy when he is around other people.
Consider how he reacts when he sees you when considering why he says that he feels comfortable with you. If you notice that he changes his body language and behavior when he is with you, it may be the case that he has particularly strong feelings for you.
How to make him feel comfortable with you?
Here are some tips on making a guy feel comfortable around you:
The first thing to make a guy feel comfortable is by being yourself. Don’t put on an act, or try to imitate someone else. Just be the real you while you’re with him.
Be friendly, smiling and welcoming. Treat him respectfully and make him feel that he is important to you. Make eye contact, display open body language.
Treat him like a friend, share jokes and have him in whatever activity is going on. You can also ask him what you can do to make him feel more at ease.
Respect personal space
Respect his personal space, don’t seat too close to him. Avoid touching him if it makes him uncomfortable.
Environment can help
The surrounding colors can encourage him to be more comfortable and open up. Warm colors, such as red, orange, brown and peach, can encourage him to get comfortable, build connections and chat.
Blues, greens, turquoise, and lavender encourage him to relax and unwind. Yellow is a sunny color, known to inspire confidence in people.
Open, outdoor spaces may cheer him up and let him breathe when he feels closed in or overpowered. Comfortable furniture also invites him to relax more easily than rigid furniture.
Ask about himself
Show your interest by asking him more about himself. He will feel comfortable around you once he realizes that you are interested in him and want to know more about him.
How do you get him to say how he feels about you?
It’s not hard to get a man to say how he feels about you. All you need to do is choosing a suitable time and be patient.
Here are some tips to make him talk about his feeling:
Choose a good method
You can ask over text. It’s easier than doing it in person, but much easier to misinterpret. It’s better to talk to him in person since you’ll be able to interpret their body language in person.
Do the best you can and make the best judgment on how you want to ask him about his feelings.
Don’t assume you know what he’s thinking
Assumptions often make him feel not heard or validated. He’ll react by completely shutting down the lines of communication all together.
So, if you want him to open up, you must stop jumping to conclusions about how you think he feels. Instead, approach your conversation with him, with an open mind right from the start.
Choose a good time to ask
If you’re not sure about this, you can simply check and ask him, “Is this a good time to talk?”. If it’s not, don’t worry. Ask him “When would be a good time?” then.
Give him space to respond
Sometimes men don’t open up and talk about a particular issue, since they don’t have an answer for you right away. What he needs is some space to think about how he feels.
So, depending on the situation, give him time and space to think about his feelings.
Show him appreciation
Showing your appreciation is a way for him to get vital feedback from you about how he’s doing. When he knows that his efforts are appreciated, it will encourage him to open up and talk more often in the future.
Talk about his interests
Talking about his interests can be the first step to make e feel that you are safe space for him to open up with. Even if you find it somewhat boring, pay attention to what he’s saying. You might learn about his feelings and his dreams for the future.
Make the conversation become easy and natural
A better way to get him to open up is by taking a less intimidating approach to your conversation. This can help make a conversation feel less pressure and more like a relaxing conversation.
Everyone has their own attachment style, way of communicating and love language. He might not share as fast as you want him to. Be patient and give him the space that he needs to open up and feel safe talking to you.
Signs a man feels safe with you
When a man feels safe around you, he might do the following things:
He calls you when he’s stressed
He calls you whenever feels stressed, tired, or disappointed. He’ll try to contact you whenever he has a chance, just because you provide immediate stress-relief for him.
He asks you to comfort him
He may call you and say, “I’m sort of a mess right now. Can you just come over and comfort me?”
He teases you
He likes teasing you because he knows that you know he means well, and you’re comfortable enough to be teased.
He’ll get a little drunk around you
He feels safe enough with you to get a little toasty around you. He knows he might do or say something stupid, and you won’t get angry.
He brings you around his best friends
He feels comfortable and safe to take you with him and join his friends’ meetings or parties.
He tells you he needs alone time
He knows that he can tell you when he needs to be alone, and you won’t take it personally or start an argument about it.
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There are different meanings when a man says he feels comfortable with you. You can tell that yourself through his body languages and what he usually does when he is with you. Come back to BestLifeTips to get more interesting information.